I suspect this crime will go unsolved. Sad. They seemed like such a sweet couple.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
All I can say is we need to start having 3-day weekends, so I can fit all this stuff in and still have some me time.
Friday, April 29, 2011
Yes, in just 3 months it will be time to race around Denver like insane people for the Great Urban Race. We had such a great time last year, I cannot wait for this year’s race. We did not win last year, but we did finish and best of all we had an blast and it was probably one of my favorite memories from 2010. If you have thought of doing this, it is a fun event…you solve clues, do challenges and run around Denver. It is crazy. Here are some shots from last year’s fun with the Spencers and the Stubbendicks.
I also find it interesting how invested people in America can feel for a wedding of two people they have never met. I keep hearing over and over on television how everyone loves a happy ending, as if Prince William's life is over with this wedding. There may be years and years of more happiness or even unhappiness in his future. Who knows? I guess people just want a good story.
What I find incredibly sad is that people in America can be so enthralled by a wedding of two strangers in London and completely happy for them, yet these same people are so divided in this country on the topic of gay marriage and civil unions. People say that William deserves his happy ending..,well, don't Dale and I deserve our happy ending? Don't we deserve the right to declare we want to spend our lives together as a married couple or have a civil union. We have been together for almost eight years, are fully committee...yet we cannot marry or have a civil union in our state. We have to have special paperwork drafted so we can make medical decisions for each other or God forbid visit each other in a hospital. We do not get the tax benefits of a married couple. Dale will not receive my Social Security if I passed, nor I his. We do not have the rights provided to heterosexuals in this country. Hell, we still cannot donate blood, even though all blood is screened. A heroin addict who shares needles can donate their blood and I cannot because I am sexually attracted to men. How absurd is that?
I just wish as a country we could be a little less enamored by fairy tales and a little more focused on the fact that our own citizens are being discriminated. I don't even care if it is gay marriage as I understand many see marriage as a religious ceremony. Then, make marriage a religious ceremony. Allow the state to perform civil unions - whether a man and woman, woman and woman or man and man. Leave marriage to the churches. And if not, then remove laws that grant rights based on marriage on a local, state and federal level as that is discriminatory when not everyone can marry the person they love.
I deserve the right to be in a legalized relationship with Dale. I deserve the same rights as all Americans. I do not mean to rain on Royal Wedding as I wish William and Kate all the happiness...but I just wish I could have that happy day too. A day where people came to celebrate mine and Dale's love. A day where people wore big hats for me.
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Overall, the diet has been okay. I am not one of those dieters who cuts all carbs or anything like that instead I try to be more practical since I love carbs far too much. I continue to follow these five principles:
1. Track everything you eat with something like www.MyFitnessPal.com, who has a handy iPhone app or something just as easy. I find by simply tracking it forces me to be truthful to myself. I cannot pretend my lunch was "light" when it was in fact not. It also makes me think about my day. If I know I am going out to dinner, it makes me think to cut back at lunch to afford the extra dinner calories or walk more during the day. I cannot recommend tracking enough as I think it is the largest contributor to my 43 pound weight loss this year.
2. Limit daily calories. I am currently limiting mine to 1,200 daily. This will be different for everyone depending how much you want to lose, but I recommend a goal as without goals you have no way of measuring success. I do not get into tracking fat, proteins, etc. It is too much work. I find when you track calories, you tend to make healthier choices and the rest just all works out naturally.
3. Do not eat after 7 PM on Sunday through Thursday and 8 PM on Friday and Saturday. Now there will always be exceptions to this rule as life is messy and shot happens, but if you try your best to eat dinner early and avoid late night snacks, you will be more successful on your diet.
4. Drink at least 8 glasses of water daily. This is huge as it cuts down on hunger. This can be hard, so buy yourself a large Water bottle that is at least 40 oz. Fill that and focus on that during the day. That will guarantee you 5 glasses. If you do not like the taste of water, add lemon or low-cal flavor packets. Don't make this an excuse and drink diet soda instead.
5. Increase your activity. I am not someone who likes exercise or the gym. I know this about myself, but I love being outdoors, so walking is perfect for me. I try to walk an hour per day, which sometimes does not happen but usually in a week I get in at least 7 hours of dedicated, focusing walking which is just over 20 miles. This is 7 hours I probably would have been on my ass. Walking is an easy, low-impact option for everyone. The excuse is always time - make it. Walk the dog, walk the kids, park extra far in the Target parking lot...do whatever it takes to get more activity. I walk to/from work after I get bus downtown rather than take shuttle to guarantee I at least get 30 minutes of walking. Taking stairs instead of an escalator or elevator are great too.
So that is it - just 5 things to remember. Now, I will not say it is easy and wonderful as dieting sucks. Cake and candy are easy and wonderful. However, this plan is doable. It is realistic to me and for me it works. Find what works for you and stick with it.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
It is funny, but when it was Dale’s birthday, I said he did not want any gifts, which was true…he never wants anything for himself (he is a saint). I still got him a special things for his birthday including a surprise birthday celebration. I however am a little different as I want a few things for my birthday. I know this makes me sound horrible, but I never claimed to be perfect.
I figured since it is about 60 days until my birthday, it may be a good idea to start putting out some hints for Dale of what I would love for my birthday. Now, I do not need all these things. Hell, I really do not need any of these things as I am blessed with good health, great friends, a wonderful family and Dale is the best gift ever. However, if Dale is looking for a gift idea here are some suggestions.
A pair of Garris Plain Toe Italian suede shoes in chocolate in size 12 from Johnston & Murphy
An iPhone 4 in black from Apple
The Live Butterfly Garden as seen on TV (shut up, you know you want one too)
A surprise Flash Mob to any song featured on Glee in Seasons 1 or 2
An iPad Logitech case with keyboard from Zagg
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
I was at my friend Sandy Stubbendick's house on Sunday for Easter dessert. Our friend, Tammy Robles was there making said Easter dessert, which was a lemon tart with a pecan and grapefruit sauce. Sandy commented how hard it is for Tammy to come up with a dessert that does not contain chocolate, since she (Sandy) is not a fan of chocolate and does not contain berries, since I have a thing against berries that involves berries, dogs and urine (long story). I commented that I do not like grapefruit, but love lemons. Sandy got a piece of paper and told me to write down the things I did not eat so she had the full list. Ugh. Am I really that guy? Am I that picky? Sadly, yes.
Now to my defense, I never, ever expect people to plan meals around my weird food dislikes. It is my issue and I make due. I truly love that Sandy is such a caring friend that she tries to go above and beyond to have meals that to not alienate me. However, let's be honest...it is not like I cannot afford to miss a meal or dessert. Also, I tend to always be able to find enough I like in any meal. If i do not eat the side dish provided, I just eat more of the entree. If I do not like the dessert, I stare at the host or hostess and imagine them dead (just kidding). I did eat Tammy's lemon tart and even tried it with the pecan and grapefruit sauce. The sauce was okay, but I preferred the tartness of the lemon tart without the sauce, which was funny since everyone else said they loved how the sauce cut down the tartness. The tartness was the best part. Again, this just demonstrates who different my taste buds seem to be from everyone else.
So there I sat at Sandy's kitchen island listing all the foods I do not like that included (in no particular order):
Berries (yes, all berries...the next question is usually strawberries and yes, that includes strawberries)
Red grapes (I do like green and black grapes)
Olives (both green and black)
Pineapples (this one seems to drive Dale particularly crazy)
Sweet pickles (I only like dill)
Peaches (it is like biting into a fuzzy arm)
Honeydew melons (the smell is horrible)
Oatmeal (I hate the texture)
Cottage cheese (reminds me of baby vomit)
Fruit cocktail (which makes sense when you read above, huh?)
I am sure I am missing several from this list, but it is all that came to mind at the moment. Now, I will note that I love lima beans and calf liver, which are things that apparently 99% of the world apparently despises. I also love mushrooms, which people find ridiculous since they are a fungus from the ground. I even like sardines.
It is just difficult sometimes as I think everyone thinks I am a bit of a freak when it comes to my foot dislikes. I think i am just more sensitive to textures of foods and as a result tend to stray away from foods with unique textures. Maybe I am just more vocal in what I do and do not like. Maybe most people just sit there and eat foods they do not like? I don't know. I just figure there are more than enough foods out there I love, so why eat foods I do not like.
A lot of people read a list like the one above and think, when what do you eat. Plenty. Hell, I am not starving and would not have been 275 pounds last year if I could not find foods I like, right. By food group, I eat:
Grains - I eat any type of bread, rice or pastas
Dairy - skim milk, all cheeses, vanilla yogurt, eggs, butter
Meats - I pretty much like any type of meat
Fruits - apples, oranges, bananas, green grapes
Vegetables - corn, potatoes, lettuce, onion, tomatoes, beans
So, as you can see I have plenty to pick from. I just think as a society we are too "berry-centric" in our desserts and that is the part that everyone finds so unusual. In reality, I dislike berries for several reasons - 1) the taste usually overpowers everything else; 2) they are gritty and I hate gritty and then there is 3) the whole childhood incident with a dog pissing on berry bushes, which most people assume is the only reason. I get all berries are not coated in urine (only some). I just do not like the taste of berries and when you see a scuzzy dog pissing on them, it is just the final nail in the berry coffin.
Sometimes I think it would just be easier to lie and say I was allergic as most people tend to accept allergies with ease. However, you say you just don't like the taste of something and people think you belong in a circus cage.
Step up one and all....come forward and see the man who does not eat berries or drink coffee. Join us as we watch his face as he spits out this sip of coffee and makes a horrified face of disgust. Laugh as we move a plate of blueberries closer and closer to him.
My favorite question is always what comes immediately after I say something like, "I do not drink coffee." it is usually something like, "Have you tried it?" No, I am 38 years old and I never tried it. I just walk around saying I do not drink it, but it never once ever dawned on me to actually try it. Thank goodness I stumbled upon you. Thank you! Or even better, "Here, try it!" as if they have to physically see me ingest something I hate to in fact prove I do not like it. My guess is they are visual people, who have to see the disgusted look on my face to believe that I could not possibly like a peach. I assume these people must also walk up to a person in a wheelchair and refuse to accept they have a handicap unless they are willing to pull themselves up and try to fail walking. Thank goodness they do not expect me to make out with a woman before they accept I am gay. I can just see it, "No, kiss her and prove to me you don't like girls."
Okay, I am done ranting about berries and my food dislikes now. But please remember, we are all different and this includes our food tastes. That is what makes us so special. Most of all please know that you NEVER need to prepare a special meal for me. I will always make do.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Sunday, April 24, 2011
They also gave is large bubbles and wands, which I am very excited to use. Dale says I need to wait for a nicer day to use them. I can't wait.
We played the game Cranium Scribblish which seemed a bit complex at first (that may be because I was on my 2nd glass of wine by the time the game started) but proved to be a ton of fun. It combines the game Pictionary with the childhood game of telephone, where each person passes along a message and you see how screw up it gets by the end. The funniest drawings and captions last night in my opinion go to Tim Spencer (but I did have a few glasses of wine so maybe they were not funny at all).
Sandy & Steve won the game and trophy and at midnight we called it a night (which was probably a blessing for the Spencers who were probably thinking when will these people leave). It was a great night. I love this group of friends.
On a side note, Dale just explained that the Spencers did not give me my own bottle of wine. I was the only person who drank wine last night as everyone else had a fruity, tropical rum concoction and I just took it upon myself to drink the entire bottle. Weird. Perception is funny. I say they gave me my own bottle still and I say they expected me to drink it. I was just doing what was polite.
I lost 5.5 pounds last week for a total of 8 pounds down since I started three weeks ago (and 43 pounds since June 2010). I personally do NOT understand it. The previous two weeks I averaged 30 miles of walking and lost 1 pound each week. Last week ,I barely got in any walking due to the rain/cold and there goes 5 pounds. I think my body finally said, “Uncle” and accepted we were going to start losing weight again. I think the initial calorie shock reduction to 1,200 calories each day has finally set in and is working. I imagine I may have lost even more last week, but I did not follow my diet last night at game night enjoying tortilla chips, guacamole, jalapeño peppers, butterscotch chex mix, caramel chex mix, more tortilla chips, pistachio ice cream, bread budding and a bottle of wine. However, I refuse to miss fun evenings like last night and have no regrets. So how excited I am to be down 8 pounds already. I am now 27 pounds away from my goal of being 200 pounds.
Happy (very happy) dieting! If you are on the same journey as me, stay focused and keep at it…weeks like this will be coming your way.
I have been awake for an hour.
Dale is still sleeping.
I'm waiting for him to wake up for two reasons.
1. So I can give him his Easter Basket.
2. Then, we can watch the Macy's Easter Day Parade.
But really some retailer needs to get a national TV show around this holiday.
The 1st Annual Target Easter Sunday Parade live from Los Angeles.
And at the end of the parade...wait for it...the Easter Bunny.
I see lots of marketing opportunity.
I am still waiting on sleeping beauty Dale though to rise.
I think I will make him breakfast once he wakes up.
Unless he insists.
In other news, one of our smoke detectors is chirping.
It started 20 minutes ago.
I should get up and track down which one.
And change the batteries.
But I won't for two reasons.
1. The chirping may wake up Dale.
2. It sounds like work.
I'm fairly sure I cannot not work on Easter.
Dale just stirred!
He is snoring again.
So back to Easter and work.
I think it would be sacrilegious to change the smoke detector battery or something.
I am pretty sure I read a psalm about that somewhere.
No worketh on Easter Sunday.
So really I am not being lazy but following my faith.
We are going to White Fence Farm for lunch today.
My sister, four nieces and nephew are joining us.
I am excited for two reasons.
1. Fried chicken.
2. My family are funny as hell.
I should probably not reference hell on Easter.
Pretty sure I read a psalm on that too.
Do not talketh of hell on Easter Sunday.
We are also going to the Stubbendicks for dessert this afternoon for two reasons.
1. Dessert makes Tom happy.
2. The Stubbendicks are so much fun.
The chirping alarm seems louder now.
However, no movement from Dale.
Thank goodness this was not a real emergency.
My stomach just growled.
I imagine my stomach as the plant from Little Shop of Horrors.
It is evil, sarcastic and says, "feed me" all the time.
I all imagine it is voiced by a soulful black man with a deep baritone.
Hey, Dale rolled over.
He said, "hi honey."
It is 7:48 AM.
It is great he is awake for two reasons.
1. My stomach is hungry.
2. That chirping alarm is driving me crazy.
Happy Easter everyone.
I hope it is wonderful.
Enjoy other gems like these are www.sketchybunnies.com. The site is hysterical.
But I'm not.
Just got home from Game Night at the Spencers.
I drank way too much.
At least a bottle of wine seems like too much.
I am in bed.
Dale is already asleep.
Zoe is already asleep.
But that may be the wine talking.
I already checked Facebook and Twitter.
And played 8 games of Words with Friends.
Both Dale and Zoe are snoring.
Had a great time tonight.
The Spencers and Stubbendicks are such good people.
Dale and I are blessed to call them friends.
I am looking forward to Easter with my sister, nieces and nephew tomorrow.
Will be fun.
Well I should try to get to sleep.
I have a hangover planned for tomorrow morning.
I put it all together on Friday and it has been sitting on top of our kitchen cabinet (where the ceramic watermelon usually lives) since then and Dale has not noticed yet. Funny.
Saturday, April 23, 2011
I love daffodils but they seem to come and go so quickly. All but one remains in our front yard, but all the tulips are starting to pop up now, which is a welcome sign of Spring (even though we had snow flurries today). I snapped this photo earlier today of one of my favorites.
Last night, Dale and I joined our friend Donna Frazzini for dinner at Joe’s Crab Shack. Oddly, it is less than 5 miles from our home and a place we pass close to almost daily, yet we had never been there. It was a fun place and it was great to catch up with Donna. Donna and I even shared one of their giant steamer pots with lobsters, clams, shrimp, corn, sausage and potatoes. Since I did not dip in the melted butter, it was actually pretty healthy for my diet (yeah, Tom). I also had a very light lunch knowing that we were going to dinner. After dinner Dale and I ran some errands to Joann Fabrics (I know that sounds uber-gay) and Home Depot (I know that sounds uber-butch) and then came home. I watched a little TV on my iPad and then called it a night.
Friday, April 22, 2011
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Even with my iPod on and headphones in my ears, I could still hear him talking. Phrases like, "the shits," "it's been non-stop all-day" and "no, it's all liquid" were not what I wanted to be hearing at all. It was fairly embarrassing for the guy, when I pulled the cord for my stop and the bell rang. His head snapped around so quickly and there he saw me, starting to stand up. I assume he is probably convincing himself right now that my music was so loud there was no way I heard his crappy conversation (see what I did there...I used crappy to describe the conversation because it was about poop). So why share this? Misery loves company. If I had to hear the details of his diarrhea, it is only fair you share in the joy too.