Monday, January 31, 2011

It is the simple things in life

After a long day and a wintery commute home, it is sometimes the simple things in life that bring a smile to your face. For me tonight, it was seeing that Hilda, our kick-ass cleaning lady had paid us a visit and she left our toilet tissue hotel ready. I have to admit that I just love my toilet tissue folded into that little triangle.


Plus as an added bonus tonight, Dale prepared the perfect winter meal of stuffed green peppers, from his Mom's recipe. He made them a month or so ago and froze the leftovers, so he heated them up tonight and I have to say they were even better reheated. He even treated me to some homemade chocolate chip cookies, which is a sign he must be feeling better.

It is currently hovering in the low single digits outside and it is expected to drop to -10 degrees overnight. I put an extra wool blanket on the bed and Dale, Zoe and I are already snuggled up under the covers.

Tomorrow should be a very cold morning commute as it is supposed to barely break 0 degrees all day. I already have my extra thick socks and thermal underwear laid out, so I do not forget to bundle up before heading to the bus. Keep warm tonight and tomorrow folks!

On a side note, I am sure Dale will be less than pleased that the photo that made this post is of our toilet tissue and not his stuffed peppers. Sorry Dale.

Also, for those of you curious, that is not wallpaper in the photo either. Dale hand painted our guest bathroom with stripes in two shades of gold. It was about 40 hours of work and quite honestly is amazing. The detail to perfectly straight lines is without parallel. Dale is incredible when it comes to this stuff.

Winter has finally come to Denver

Well, it seems that Mother Nature has finally sent Jack Frost to Denver Metro. I guess the East Coast can't have all the fun, right?

After 70 degree temperatures over the weekend, today started with some freezing rain for the morning commute and quickly switched to snow. My office is six floors up and I have a wall of windows, so my view most of the day was a blur of white snow blowing sideways.





There has not been a ton of accumulation yet today, but the temperatures are in the single digits and it is windy, so the combination of snow, wind and cold is making the roads incredibly slick this evening.

As I type this post, I am sitting on my faithful bus, the 80X, heading north west from Denver to Arvada. Since the bus was 30 minutes late, it is standing room only tonight as we gained those passengers who were early for the next bus. The roads are definitely slow going and icy as the commute is taking twice as long as normal.

I hate this type of weather as there is always one idiot on the road, who thinks he or she is invincible and his or her stupidity injures or even worse kills other people. I hope my co-workers, friends, neighbors and family all arrive home safely tonight.

In a complete shock, I already saw online that most schools are closed for tomorrow. I have been in Colorado for 11 years and cannot remember a time when schools were already closed the next day like this. I guess the schools are taking the better safe than sorry approach, which is smart.

Oh well, I will be home soon and will enjoy a nice evening at home with Dale and Zoe. By Friday we will be 50 degrees again and this storm will be a distant memory.

Be safe Colorado friends!

Standing room only

The bus this evening is standing room only. This picture is not the greatest but 8 people are standing. Since my bus was 30 minutes late, we had a lot of people who normally catch the next bus grouped onto mine. With the slick roads, I am glad I have a seat.

Pain pills are a pain

The toughest part of the pain pills for my arm and now my tooth has been the side effects. Yes, they eliminate the pain, but it is hard to get past the foggy feeling. It is especially bad in the morning. I find it extremely difficult to get moving and focused. I am usually a wake up and get going kind of guy, but while on the pills, I wake up groggy and confused. I think I will start seeing if I can control the pain with just Advil.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Date #2: In sickness and in, well sickness

Dale and I had our second date of 2011 this past Friday, January 28th. The original planned called for us to take in a midnight showing of the Rocky Horror Picture Show at a theater near Cherry Creek. However, since the idea of doing anything near midnight, let alone starting at midnight seemed daunting since Dale was still fighting the flu and I was recovering from a tooth extraction. Accepting reality, we rearranged the dating schedule and moved our Rocky Horror night forward and decided a date night staying home watching movies in the basement sounded perfect.


We picked up some Chinese food from our favorite Chinese restaurant, Rose Garden at 80th & Wadsworth and even picked up some root beer and vanilla ice cream for root beer floats from Safeway. We looked at some DVDs at the Blockbuster kiosk at Safeway, but since nothing looked good, we both decided to instead get caught up on the DVR. While we ate our dinner, we caught up on a few episodes of Hawaii 5-O and Chuck. The food was delicious and the root beer floats were a great treat, especially after several days of no real appetite for either of us.

Now, I will be the first to admit it was not the most exciting date, but Dale and I are together through thick and thin and in sickness and in health...so if I was not feeling 100%, I could not think of someone better to spend it with than Dale. Even when he is sick, he is still better to be around than anyone else I know. We barely made it past 10:00 PM Friday night before heading to bed, but it was still a nice evening with the guy I love. Besides, there will be plenty of time this year for more exciting dates, right?

60 hours inside

By the time I leave for work tomorrow morning, I will have been home inside for 60 straight hours, having not left the house this weekend. Well, that is not 100% true, I did walk to the mailbox at the end of the driveway this evening to grab yesterday's mail, but that really counts as staying home, right?


All, in all it was a nice, quiet weekend focusing on rest. I think Dale and I both needed a weekend home to try to get back to our healthier selves. My elbow and wrist have been a bit achy today, but my tooth (or should I say where my tooth was) is feeling must better. Dale seems to be improving, but he will have to go on a second round of Tamiflu as he still has a horrible cough and is not back to his happy self yet. Hopefully, he will be fully recovered from this flu by next weekend.

Today was typical Sunday. We slept in and had a lazy day. Dale did some laundry and I read about 70 more pages of my book, which I find very intriguing. I realized about 4:00 PM, that I never had lunch today, but Dale cooked us up a nice dinner of meatloaf, mashed potatoes and corn. It was a good comfort meal for a chilly, winter evening.

I also spent the late afternoon doing some work, starting on wireframes for a mobile site for my client, Budget Truck Rental. Creating wireframes for websites is one of the favorite parts of my job and in a few hours, I knocked out a site map and 7 wireframes. I have 9 more wireframes, plus detailed requirements to knock out over the next few days, but I am happy, I got a good start. A mobile website in interesting as simplicity is the key, but you still have a good user experience. This will be a busy week, as I have a new employee starting. We have a new sales person starting Tuesday, so I will be devoting 2-3 hours a day getting him trained, so I wanted to get a head start on my client deliverables, so I did not fall behind.


A nice treat tonight was a phone call from my friends Scott Ashley and Robert Sansom. They saw the blog post about my dream last night. They called this morning, but I missed the call. They also texted this morning, to let me know they would call again this evening. It was great to hear their voices and catch-up. They had big news that they are leaving New Jersey and moving to Cleveland, OH rob has already accepted a new job and now Scott is working on seeing if he can transfer with his company. Having lived in Queens, NY and now Englewood, NJ for over 10 years, I think they are looking forward to a change and a more affordable cost of living. Maybe my dream was foreshadowing the fact that they had big news. No matter what, I love and adore those guys and as long as they are happy, that is all that matters. So it looks like Dale and I will have an Ohio trip in our future once they get moved and settled.

The weather seems to be turning cold and they are predicting snow tomorrow evening and temperatures barely above 0 degrees on Tuesday. Burr! I guess this is what we get for being 68 degrees on Friday, huh? This is such an unusual winter for Denver metro this year with very little snow and mild temperatures. They actually predict Tuesday may be the coldest temperatures for the 2010-2011 season so far. I can't complain, as the mild winter was been fine by me.

As I type this at 7:36 PM, Dale and I are already in bed. I am listening to Gwyneth Paltrow belt out Forget You on my headphones, as I type on my iPad, while Dale watches the lackluster National Treasure 2 on television and plays Words with Friends on his iPhone. The sequel of National Treasure did not come close to the fun adventure of the original, but Dale still seems to like it and there is really nothing else on TV tonight. I plan to read a bit more of my book, A Secret Gift before going to sleep.

January is wrapping up tomorrow and I am looking forward to a new (hopefully injury free) month.

This made me smile

I saw this online and it made me smile. I know you would think that people today would know use the word "gay" to be synonymous with the word "lame" but it still happens. I personally tend to not let it bother me, as I know it is usually not coming from a place of hate...however, I guess ignorance is ignorance, huh?




Woke up from a dream feeling very hurt and confused

I remember a lot of my dreams in fairly good detail. I am not sure if that is normal, but most people seem to comment that they rarely remember their dreams. For me, it seems the more emotional the dream, the more likely I am to remember it the next day. So dreams where I am extremely happy, sad, confused or frightened seem to stick with me most of all.

Last night, I had a dream that stuck with me and actually woke me up from my sleep feeling very hurt and confused. I hate those. It is weird how the emotions in a dream can carry into my real life emotions. There have been times when Dale had actually made me angry in a dream and it was hard to shake that feeling the next day and not be upset with Dale. Oddly, Dale has had the same thing happen to him. I remember he once told me that I was mean to him in a dream. He could not remember what I had done in his dream, but he knew he was mad and that I probably owed him an apology. My thought was great, even dream version of Tom Whittaker is a dick.

Anyhow, back to my dream last night. Dale and I were at Target walking through the store pushing a shopping cart. I assume that it was Target, as I distinctly remember the red shopping cart and we were looking for Emergen-C, which we usually buy at Target. I guess it does not matter as the actual store is not that important to the dream, except it was obviously a store in Colorado.

While shopping, I look ahead and see our friends Scott Ashley and Rob Sansom also shopping and pushing a cart at the same store. We are shocked to see them since they live in New Jersey. I can remember very distinctly in the dream that my first thought was that Scott, Rob and Dale are surprising me and Scott and Rob are out for vacation. I run up to them with a big smile and say, "What are you doing here?"

As if it was no surprise to see me, Scott turns and says, "Shopping."

There is no excitement in his voice, no happiness to see me and he and Rob push on. I turn and look at Dale and I am even more confused as the look on his face is as shocked as mine. I quickly ask Dale if he knew they were coming and he says he did not.

We quickly catch up to Rob and Scott again. I ask them why they are in Colorado and Rob replies, "Scott had some conference thing here this week, so we turned it into a ski vacation."

There is no hello, great to see you or surprise as I am expecting to hear. I reply with the puzzled question, "And you didn't call us?"

At this point in the dream I felt extremely confused and hurt. It got even worse when Scott turned, gave a smirk and said, "Obviously not."

I remember thinking to myself that this must be a weird dream. In my dream, I actually thought I was having a dream. Funny, huh?

So there Dale and I stood upset, hurt, confused and a little angry. How could they come to Colorado and not tell us? Rob and Scott continued to push on shopping as if they barely knew us.

It was at this point I woke up feeling incredibly sad and even a bit mad. It was a little after 4:00 AM this morning, as I checked the clock to see if it was time to let Zoe out. Surprisingly, I feel right back to sleep even though I was sad. I think part of me actually expected to return to the dream. I did not. Or if I did, I do not remember.

This morning when I got up a little after 7:00 AM, I immediately remembered the dream and it got me thinking. Maybe the dream was my subconscious picking up on something in my conscious life. Maybe I feel I have not been a good friend to Rob and Scott lately or have not reached out to them enough. Maybe I am just missing them. They are our best friends and January has been a rough month with my arm and Dale's flu, so maybe it is just my subconscious reaching out for connections. Usually at my darkest times, they are the two I turn to outside of Dale for support.

No matter what, I guess I need to call or message them on Facebook to make sure 1) they are not secretly in town or 2) they are not mad at us. Also, I plan to avoid Target the next few days, just in case as dreams are weird.

Thoughts after midnight

It's a little after midnight. I am lying in bed having finished the first 50 pages of Ted Gup's book,
A Secret Gift: How One Man's Kindness and a Trove of Letters - Revealed the Hidden History of the Great Depression
. It is a very interesting read so far. I love history and I love stories of people giving of themselves to help others, so this is the perfect book for me. Part of me wanted to keep reading as I find the book very compelling, but knew if I did not stop now, it would suddenly be 2:00 AM. The book already has me thinking of how I need to help people in my community, who are struggling. Dale and I are very fortunate and we need to do more to help others.

Today was a quiet day for Dale and I at home. We never left the house actually. We are both on the mend - Dale from the flu, while I am still recovering from a fractured arm and extracted tooth. Dale has improved the past few days, but still has a horrible, hacking cough. He is actually lying next to me wheezing a bit. Between his wheezing and our dog, Zoe's snoring, I have a nice little bedtime concert going. There is also a car outside with it's music on far too loud for this hour. I assume it is one of the teenagers over at our neighbors, The Walters heading home from their daughter's party. It is actually not the music I hear, but rather the thumping bass. I hate that. Thankfully it just stopped.

Anyhow, Dale and I spent the bulk of the day relaxing, watching bad reality TV (America's Next Top Model), catching up on the DVR and lounging on the couch. I even napped for a few hours after filling my belly with chicken and dumplings kindly provided by our friend Sandy Stubbendick. I think it was the restful day we both needed to help us recuperate.

We were supposed to go to our friend and neighbor Christy Yeaman's 80's themed birthday party tonight, but neither of us felt healthy enough to attend. We are both exhausted, on medication and look like hell. We knew we were in no mood to party and did not want to dampen everyone else's spirits. Christy was so sweet to understand that we could not make it and even snuck away from her own party (dressed as Madonna) with our other friend and neighbor, Brenda to deliver us some cupcakes. How sweet is that? I know I say it a lot, but Dale and I are blessed to have such incredible people in our lives.

As for me, my arm continues to improve. My overall motion is great, but my wrist continues to hurt. The splint has helped, but turning my wrist left or right still hurts like hell. My sleeping has improved. As for my tooth, well that is gone and I still have a dull ache in my mouth. The pain pills help and hopefully the pain will subside in a few days.

I am planning on trying to get back onto a walking and healthier eating regime again this week. I have added a few pounds back on (six to be exact) from the joys of the holidays and the struggles of my fractured arm. None the less, I need to get back into my diet and onto my goal of reaching 195 pounds.

I can hear random people walking by...my guess is it is neighbors walking home from Christy's party. They sound happy. We do not get a lot of activity at night in our neighborhood, so the sounds keep waking up Zoe, who kindly gives her soft guard dog growl. She just wants to let me know that she is doing her job and once I acknowledge the effort, she quickly rolls back over to go to sleep. She is a good dog.

More noisy cars outside. I would get up to make sure nothing is going on, but I figured it something was Zoe would act more concerned. Plus, I do not want to wake Dale. With his cough, he barely gets enough sleep.

Well, Dale just woke up and said, "Honey, it's bedtime," so I guess I'd better sign off. He already feels I spend far too much time on my iPad as it is. I'm really not that tired, since I napped, but I know he will be annoyed if he wakes up again and I am still awake. He knows I have been sleep deprived lately and I need the rest.

On a random note, every damn time I typed "the" in this post, my fat fingers typed "thr" instead, which auto corrected to "Thr". What the hell is "Thr" anyhow? Guess I can look it up tomorrow (well actually today I guess since it is now 12:43 AM).

Goodnight.

Saturday, January 29, 2011

I have an amazing idea for a new product for men

Let's be honest men are lazy and like things simple. First, they combined, shampoo and conditioner into one for us and gave us the 2 in 1 product.




Next, they realized that we were so lazy we could not be expected to buy their 2 in 1 shampoo & conditioner, plus their body wash, so they combined that too. We suddenly had the magic of 3 in 1. I mean clean is clean, right?




Recently at the store, I saw that Suave was falling behind and someone beat them to the punch with a 4 in 1 product that is a shampoo, conditioner, body wash and shaving cream. Wow!




Amazing. But why stop there? That still means I need multiple bottles. That is why I am asking Suave to just go for it and create Suave Men's 8 in 1. Yes, you heard it right. 8 products in just one bottle. Yes, I am asking them to double the competition with one bottle that contains:

Shampoo
Conditioner
Body Wash
Shaving Cream
Toothpaste
Mouth Wash
Deodorant
Cologne

If it cleans your skin, why can't it clean your teeth? Hell, if it cleans your teeth, why can't you gargle some of it. And let's be honest, it smells great, so why can't you just dab some on my pits and neck too rather than buy pricey deodorant and cologne. Yes, your entire bathroom regime in one bottle.

Dear Suave,

Please send me lots of money for this brilliant idea, plus a giant bottle of Suave Men's 8 in 1 when it comes out. Thanks!

Inventor of The Next Big Thing,
Tom


Oh, and parter with Rogaine too and we can start looking at a 9 in 1 product for 2012.

Friday, January 28, 2011

It is 68 degrees here in Denver today

It is hard to believe it is January 28th and it is almost 70 degrees. Amazing! Feels like the first day of Spring. I hope this is not a cruel joke from Mother Nature, where she kicks our ass next month.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

I need 5 minutes of your day

My college friend, Jennie Eckhaus-Katz is an amazing woman and she has is working very hard to bring some joy to a 7 year old boy undergoing a bone marrow transplant and his family. Please read this post and take a few minutes out of your day to send a card. Thank you!





From Jennie:
I am asking your help to bring some smiles to a very special little boy, Matthew, and his amazing family. I am hoping to be able to present the family with at least 100 cards of support as Matthew prepares for, and undergoes a bone marrow transplant, of which the donor is his older sister Nicole. The transplant is scheduled for February 3, 2011.

Matthew recently turned 7 years old and is the 4th child of 5 to Debbie and Glenn. His siblings are Courtney 13, Nicole 10, Nicholas 8, and Lauren 5. Matthew is the sweetest little boy, the biggest Spongebob Squarepants fan, and loves playing with his Playmobil toys and his brother and sisters!

Matthew, the younger brother of my son Zach's friend Nicholas, was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (ALL) in July 2010. After more tests, it was discovered Matthew tested positive for a chromosomal rearrangement. He had a gene mutation, and now the type of leukemia he has is called Mixed Lineage Leukemia (MLL). This rare type of leukemia is found in 3-5% of children with ALL. Mixed Lineage Leukemia (MLL), causes the leukemic cells to be very resistant to chemo.

After months of chemo, Matthew finally went into remission on November 24, 2010. Since his diagnose Matthew has been critically immunodeficient, at times his neutrophil count was so low, he couldn't even receive chemo.

Matt and his mom are now at Sloan-Kettering in NYC as Matt undergoes 4 days of total body radiation to be followed by 4 days of intense chemo. Then a day of rest, followed by the bone marrow transplant.

I can not even start to imagine the feelings this family has endured for the past 7 months, caring for a child with Leukemia, daily commutes from Long Island to NYC, and still being the best parents to four other children ranging in age from 5 -13. It is overwhelming.

Please help out by sending a card of support to Matthew, and his siblings, Lauren, Nicholas, Nicole (the donor), and Courtney. To protect the family's privacy, I am not providing their last name and am asking all cards be sent to my home address. Any groups (Girl Scouts/Boy Scouts, church groups, maybe you are a teacher and it could be a class project, etc) that would like to send cards, please do!

Please send all mail to:
Jennie Eckhaus-Katz
Mail For Matthew
42 Williams Avenue
Holtsville, NY 11742

I will start delivering the cards as soon as they arrive. Your help in reaching the goal of at least 100 cards is so very much appreciated.

THANKS!

Jennie



Wednesday, January 26, 2011

When life gives you lemons...

...watch Tosh.0 on Comedy Central. It makes me feel better about my life every time. Funniest damn show on TV.




The fun continues

Let's be honest, January 2011 has not been what I would call a good month for me. Quite honestly, this month has sucked. I have struggled with my fractured arm all month and once I stop taking pain pills last week, I discovered my back left tooth was cracked. I assume I did this when I fell January 3rd and fractured my arm. I landed on my right knee, left arm and smacked the sidewalk with the left side of my jaw. Add in the fact that Dale is battling a horrible flu, our dog decided to eat chicken bones and a dear friend lost her husband and you have one crappy month, right?

Anywho, at lunch today I went to the dentist to have my tooth looked at since I figured I can't live on pain pills or Advil forever. The dentist confirmed three things for me - 1) it would take quite a force to break off my back left tooth, 2) 75% of my tooth was gone (she guessed I probably swallowed it) and 3) what remained of my tooth was pushed abnormally far into the nerve and at a abnormally odd angle.

Well, unless Dale is beating me in my sleep, the only major force to my face was hitting it with a sidewalk, so that mystery was solved. Now the fun news...there was no saving the tooth. Too much was gone and the dentist felt the odd angle of what remained of the tooth was most likely the cause of the pain and would become very problematic in the future. The only good news is the fact that it is the very back tooth so nobody will notice it is gone unless we are making out.




So 30 minutes later and what felt like a ton of digging, pulling and pressure, my tooth is no more. Even all numbed up, it was not pleasant. It felt like the dentist had crawled in my head and was pushing from the inside out. It feels even worse now that the anesthesia has worn off and I am lying here with a bag of ice on my face wondering why vidicon does not work faster. Overall, I do have to say the dentist was superb and very kind. She let me listen to any Pandora radio station I wanted through headphones, so for me Billy Joel will now and forever be associated to tooth pain.

So that was my fun day. My tooth was gone by 1:30 PM, but I am proud to say, I powered through and did conference calls at 2:30 PM and 3:30 PM. Looking back now, that was completely moronic, but I tend to be a moron at times.

So I close with this question...if January 2011 has sucked, I can only assume February 2011 will be excellent, right? Let's hope so.

P.S. - Dale seems a bit better today. He had a horrible fever and shakes again last night, but rested a lot today. Hopefully the medicine does the trick. The saddest part we are both so best up right now you'd think we were 80 years old.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Not the day I expected

Today was a tough day and definitely not the day I expected. Dale has been fighting off a flu the past few days. Dale kept describing it as a chest cold, but I had suspected it was a flu since Sunday night. He spent almost the entire day in bed yesterday, which is not like Dale at all. However, I try my best not to panic or smother.

Last night, it became clear it was more than a simple cold. Dale took Nyquil and Mucinex before bed, which knocked him out but he woke up a few hours later with a violent hacking cough and was shivering uncontrollably. It is difficult to share a bed with someone coughing, but add in shivering and it is of course impossible to sleep, so I was also awake. Dale told me he was freezing. I added additional blankets to his side of the bed, but he continued to shiver uncontrollably for hours. His temperature was 102 degrees. Nothing seemed to help and I think Dale's nerves got the best of him and he vomited.

I debated the best way to handle things and posted Dale's symptoms on Facebook. My biggest worry was pneumonia. Post-chemotherapy patients are high risk for pneumonia and Dale had a violent cough and complained of heaviness in his chest. Add in the shivering for hours and the fever and I was very worried. I decided I would call his Doctor's office once it opened to see if I should bring him in.

However, before I could even call, his Doctor's office called me, specifically Sandy Stubbendick, who is the nurse who was in charge of Dale's cancer treatment at the Colorado Blood Cancer Institute (formerly Rocky Mountain Cancer Center of Denver). We have become very good friends with Sandy over the past 18 months and she had seen my posts on Facebook early that morning. Sandy had already spoken to Dale's Oncologist, Dr. Mark Brunvand, who said based on the symptoms to have Dale come in and get a chest X-ray at Presbyterian/St. Luke's hospital. Dr. Brunvand was booked all day, but said he would squeeze in Dale. How incredible are Sandy and Dr. Brunvand? Talk about caring for your patients and going above and beyond. Truly amazing and why I hold both in such incredible regard.

Sandy also called in a Tamiflu prescription for Dale, which I could pick up from the pharmacy on the way to the hospital for his chest X-ray. With my arm in a splint, we headed out for some one-handed driving downtown. I left off the sling, so if I did need my left arm in a pinch, I could access it.

The stop at the Safeway pharmacy proved unsuccessful as all the local stores and even King Soopers pharmacies were out of Tamiflu. They found one for us further south, so I would have to stop later. Off we went to the hospital for the X-ray.

We arrived, parked and I re-slinged my arm and headed to the hospital. Dale had been to Presbyterian/St. Luke's so many times over the past 18 months, he actually knows most of the admissions staff by first name and they know him. Funny huh? Anyhow, they got us registered and up to radiology in a jiffy and we were in and out in less that 40 minutes, which is impressive if you ask me.

We headed over to Colorado Blood Cancer Institute, who drew blood, did some thing where they collect your nasal discharge and hooked Dale to fluids. He was running a temperature again. A few hours later and Dale was rehydrated and looking a lot better. The good news was that Dale's chest X-ray was clear (yeah!), but the nasal discharge test confirmed Dale had the flu (boo and so much for the flu shot).

Dr. Brunvand was glad Dale came in because he said you never know how one's body will react to the first flu post cancer. Dale had so many issues with his white and red blood cells after chemotherapy, that we really did not know how his body may react, plus the high likelihood of pneumonia always creates concern.

Additional good news was that Dale's white blood count was high, which meant they were working to fight the flu. Dr. Brunvand felt the Tamiflu would help, but warned he has seen with post chemotherapy patients that one normal dose is sometimes not enough and Dale may need more than one 5-day dosage, so we need to contact them if he still has flu symptoms by next week. He also gave Dale a cough suppressant with codeine to help him sleep at night and not cough (I think this may help me most of all).

With Dale feeling better, we headed out to find a parking ticket on the truck. I forgot I parked in a 2-hour spot on the street (oops!). Oh well, my $25 donation to the good City of Denver, I guess. I took the arm sling back off and we headed to the Safeway that had the Tamiflu on the way home. We were able to get all of Dale's prescriptions in one try. I know my one-armed driving was not the best as Dale asked numerous times, if he should drive. I am surprised when I came out of Safeway, he did not just take the driver's seat.

I got Dale home safely and settled in for a nap as he was pretty worn out. In my rush out today, I forgot to bring any Advil for myself, so after a day with no pills my arm was throbbing. So all is well that ends well. Dale is sleeping, has his first dose of Tamiflu in him and some Dayquil for good measure. Hopefully things improve for him now.

I know some may read this and think that this was an overreaction to the flu, but 1) the best way to stop anything including flu or pneumonia is early detection and 2) this is about Dale and he is the man I love, so to me anything about keeping him healthy is never an overreaction.

A huge thanks to everyone who sent good wishes on Facebook and Sandy Stubbendick, who is an angel and there when I needed her.

Nobody reads in Thornton

Nobody reads in Thornton, CO. Apparently this is true. I would have doubted this statement, but I was proven this fact (a sad fact, but still- fact). Let me explain.

Several months ago, I read a newspaper article about Ted Gup's book, A Secret Gift: How One Man's Kindness--and a Trove of Letters--Revealed the Hidden History of the Great Depression. It is the story of a man, who in 1933, anonymously ran an ad in a local newspaper offering to help 75 families in distress. All each family needed to do was write a letter explaining why they needed help and with what. The man helped 75 families, but saved the hundreds of letters received. The book details these letters and the book's author (and the anonymous donor's grandson) follows up on the families helped by these incredibly kind acts.





To make a long story short (I know, too late), I wanted to read this book as it sounded inspiring and fascinating to me. I immediately put it on hold at my local library. Months later, I am still #24 on the list. I mentioned this at our book club meeting this part Friday. We all discussed how long it takes to get a book from our local library. My friend Shannon Spencer joked that she gets all her books from the library near her work because nobody reads in Thorton. She expanded that they always have everything on shelf that she has requested.

Guess what? I came home tonight to find the book, A Secret Gift, on my porch and a Facebook message from Shannon letting me know she dropped it off. How incredibly kind is that? Apparently (and lucky for me), nobody reads in Thornton.

Thanks Shannon. I cannot remember the last time I was so excited for a specific book. I hope it is as good as I anticipate.

Monday, January 24, 2011

Sometimes more is just more

Tonight, I went to the grocery shopping or marketing as I call it. It seems like a simple task, right? Wrong!





Pushing and turning a shopping cart with one hand sucks (left arm is still in a splint and sling). Firstly, I can only turn right, so if I missed something on my left, I had to go around the entire store again. Just kidding, but you get the point. I honestly gave up half way through the trip of pushing the cart and just decided to pull the darn thing. It was a bit easier, but still took forever. All I needed was some over-the-counter medicine for Dale (he has the flu; he claims it is just a head/chest cold,but it is the flu) and something for dinner. It should have taken 15 minutes, but I was there for what felt like hours.

Someone needs to make grocery shopping easier. I personally think less options is a good start. Sometimes more is just more.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Date #1: The Broadway Musical Next to Normal

One of the gifts, I gave Dale for Christmas was 24 dates throughout 2011. Let’s be honest, it is as much a gift for Dale as it is for me. Earlier this month, we had our first date. I detail that dates at on a separate blog, but I figured I would share here too.

image For our first date, I took Dale to see the Broadway musical, Next to Normal at the Ellie Caukins Opera House in downtown Denver. Our tickets were originally for Wednesday, January 5th, but with my fractured arm, we both felt it was too much stress going to such a public event and postponed the outing week. Thankfully the good folks at Denver Center Performing Arts were kind enough to change us to another show for a $10 fee.

Next to Normal focused a mother who struggles with worsening bipolar disorder and the effect that imageher illness has on her family. The show also addresses such issues as grieving a loss, suicide, drug abuse, ethics in modern psychiatry, and suburban life. I know what you are thinking - fun topics, right? I know it sounds incredibly bit dark, but similar to the musical, Rent, this show takes heavy themes and presents them in a very honest format backed by powerful rock music.

Overall, we both thought the show was great. The cast had incredible voices and I think it really made us both think about truly how difficult it must be to face a bipolar disorder. Dale and I both specifically commented how difficult it must be for a child with a bipolar parent. The mother’s bipolar disorder imageseems to be centered on the loss of her son 17 years prior and in an interesting twist (SPOILER ALERT), the son appears throughout the show as a 17-year old vision of the mother. She sees him, even though he is dead, just like she sees her 15 year old daughter, who is alive.  The daughter struggles competing with a dead brother and the father on how to help his wife cope. It was a very interesting family dynamic to say the least.

It was a great evening and best of all, I got to see the show with Dale.  I snapped a photo of Dale in front of the beautiful chandelier at the Opera House. It came out a bit blurry due to the poor lighting, but I figured it was still nice to share.

Do you think our dog Zoe is comfortable...

...in our bed this morning?




Saturday, January 22, 2011

Alegria

This evening, our friend Sandy Stubbendick treated Dale and I to a wonderful evening at the Cirque du Soleil show in Broomfield.The show was Alegria and it was beautiful. As with all of the Cirque du Soleil, I left feeling incredibly inflexible and talentless, but even with those feelings, I still had a blast. After the show, Sandy and her daughter, Shannon joined Dale and I for dinner at Olive Garden. Breadsticks and great french-speaking clowns...how can you go wrong with such a brilliant combination. Thanks Sandy!


I'm walking (again)

I headed out for a walk with Zoe today. I am proud to report that I did not fall over or fracture anything, so that was a good walk. However, I must be honest and state that Dale was with me to hold Zoe's leash and point out all obstacles in the sidewalk. It was windy and a little chilly, so we only did about 3 miles, but it is a start to me walking again.

The magic of O.N.J.

For those you follow me on Facebook, you will remember this past Tuesday was NOT a great day for me. I was delayed flying home from Chicago by 5 hours and with my arm in a sling, it was a difficult time. However, I came home to find a very funny gift and get-well card from my friend, Catalina Navvaro, who lives in Arizona. Here is a picture of the gift:





Yes, the sent me Olivia Newton-John's Greatest Hits on vinyl. Yes, two great things from the 70's & 80's - records and ONJ. I made me laugh out loud and was a great way to end what had been a bad day. I love Olivia Newton-John for Xanadu and Cat for knowing when I needed a good laugh. Thanks, Cat!

Monday, January 17, 2011

This USA Today article really stuck with me...

...so I thought I would share. It chocked me up when I read it. Kudos to the caring pilot.

Southwest pilot holds flight for grieving grandfather
By Ben Mutzabaugh, USA TODAY

A Southwest Airlines pilot has been in the news during the past week after he held a flight from Los Angeles for 12 minutes -- just enough time to allow a grieving grandfather to catch the flight in an effort to see his dying grandson in Colorado.

The boy -- 2 year-old -- Caden Rogers -- died, but grandfather Mark Dickinson was able to complete his connecting itinerary and arrive in Colorado before the boy's death.

But, according to a growing number of media accounts, Dickinson had to overcome numerous obstacles to make that happen.

From the very beginning, ABC News writes "security officials at the Los Angeles Airport did not believe Dickinson when he asked to be moved further up in a long slow-moving security line because he was hoping to make the flight and find his grandson still alive."

"I thought, 'Oh my God, I'm not going to make my flight'. I didn't know when I was going to get the next one. I resigned myself to the fact that it was my fault," Dickinson is quoted as saying by ABC News.

But, in the meantime, wife Nancy Dickinson had decided to call the airline to see if there was any way Southwest could hold the flight -- possibly her husband's final chance to make it to Colorado in time.

Christopher Elliott first reported the story on his travel blog Elliott.org, quoting an e-mail from Nancy.

She tells Elliott that when her husband finally arrived at the gate, both "the pilot of his plane and the ticketing agent both said, 'Are you Mark? We held the plane for you and we're so sorry about the loss of your grandson.' "

Nancy continued to Elliott:

As my husband walked down the Jetway with the pilot, he said, "I can't thank you enough for this."

The pilot responded with, "They can't go anywhere without me and I wasn't going anywhere without you. Now relax. We'll get you there. And again, I'm so sorry."

The Dickinsons have since extended their thanks to Southwest for the airline's assistance in getting Mark to Colorado, according to The Mercury News of San Jose, Calif.

As for Southwest, Marilee McInnis tells the paper: "We empower our employees to make decisions on behalf of our customer. While we can't wait for every late customer we knew he had an extreme family emergency and the pilot specifically decided to wait."

"As you're reading the story, you absolutely get tears in your eyes and just an overwhelming sense of pride that our pilot took such an action," McInnis continues to CNN. "It really makes you proud to work for Southwest."

The story has gained an increasing amount of attention since it first broke on Elliott's blog on Jan. 10.

The Airline Biz blog of The Dallas Morning News adds perspective, writing "that simple act of kindness, first reported by travel writer Christopher Elliott on his blog, has generated enormous publicity for Southwest and the pilot, as the story has gone across the country and around the world."

Indeed, the story has been picked up by news outlets spanning the spectrum of media -- ranging from the Mirror in London to The Australian in Sydney to a number of other non-English publications across the globe. Even Hollywood blogger Perez Hilton -- known more for stirring the pot on celebrity controversies -- has jumped on the story.

Tempering the news, however, the Airline Biz blog points out "the death itself was very sad. Police allege the two-year-old was fatally injured when his mother's boyfriend threw him across the room."

But, for Dickinson, KWTX TV of Texas says he at least "got to Denver in time to say goodbye to his grandson and to be with his daughter."

Catching up on the blog

My fractured arm has slowed me down quite a bit and quite honestly, has me pretty exhausted. Here is an update on my life the past few days:

Thursday, 1/13/11
Woke up.
Packed.
Dale drove me to airport for flight to Boston, MA.
Airport security asked to look in the sling on my arm. I opened to show. Airport security asked to push on the sling on my arm. I declined. Odd.
Flight was okay.
I had a middle seat, so not the best with a fractured arm, but okay.
Inflight movie was good - You Again starring Kristen Bell, Jamie Lee Curtis, Sigourney Weaver and Betty White. Standard comedy mix of slapstick and romance.
Checked into Hilton in Woburn, MA
Met executive work team for dinner in Woburn, MA.

Friday, 1/14/11
All-day meeting with executive team. Great meeting.
Flew home to Denver, CO in evening.
Airport security asked to look in the sling on my arm. I opened to show. Airport security asked to push on the sling on my arm. I declined. Odd.
Flight was delayed on runway 1 hour. Apparently part of landing gear broke off, but was put back on. My flight karma sucks.
Inflight movie was great - Social Network. I can now see why this movie is nominated for so many awards.
Flight was long. Another middle seat.
Dale picked me up from airport.
Got home and went straight to bed.

Saturday, 1/15/11
Slept in (thanks Dale)
Went to the diving competition for Shannon Stubbendick, she is the daughter of our friends Sandy & Steve Stubbendick. She came in 17th and it was cool to see all the dives.
Came home napped. Very tired from arm still.
Friends Barb Pemble, Jeanne Gabres and Tammy Robles came over for pizza and Mexican train dominoes. Lots of fun.
Bailed early on fun. Was tired, so headed to bed. Dale stayed up to entertain.
Did not sleep well. Arm was painful.

Sunday, 1/16/11
Went to breakfast at our friends Toby & Nicole Krout. Had a great time catching up. Food was delicious. Dale brought coffee cake from his Mom's recipe. Yum!
Went home packed.
Took a nap. Exhausted.
Dale drove me to airport for flight to Chicago.
Airport security asked to look in the sling on my arm. I opened to show.
Flight was good. Window seat made life better.
Took cab to hotel. Freezing out. Cold made my arm ache.
Watched Golden Globes on TV.
Exhausted. Hard time sleeping. Chicago was noisy - even 11 floors up.

Monday, 1/17/11
Woke up too early.
Caught up on email.
Conference call.
Heading to Chicago office.

Monday, January 10, 2011

The kindness of strangers

After work today, I walked to the 16th Street Mall Shuttle. It takes me about 3/4 of a mile, where I catch my bus home. My arm is in the sling and zipped into my jacket, which my co-worker Becki assisted with before I left work (yes, I feel like a four year old). Anyhow, it is 15 degrees out, so while on the shuttle (which is not heated) I attempted to put on my ear muffs with one hand. After 4 attempts, I gave up as it was impossible to reach both sides of my head. A minute later this 55 (or so) year old woman stepped over, took the ear muffs from me (without saying a word) and put them over my ears. I thanked her. She smiled and said, "No worries sweetheart. You already banged up your arm. I'd hate to see you lose your ears too."

It is nice to see people willing to help others, even when it is only putting on ear muffs. Thanks kind lady...you made a tough day a bit better.

And thanks to my co-worker Becki too, who makes sure I stay medicated and helps me get dressed to go home. I am not sure how I'd do it without her.

Freaked out

I am completely freaked out by the snow and ice right now. With my left arm fractured and in a sling already, the thought of slipping on this morning's icy, snow-packed sidewalks is completely horrifying. I keep wondering how will I catch myself if I slip? Let's hope I do not have to figure that out right?

Sunday, January 9, 2011

How's the arm?

I get that question a lot. It does seem like an obvious question when you see me in a sling and honestly the question does not bother me as I know people are asking because they care. I know I would ask the same question if things were reversed. For my virtual friends wondering the same thing, I figured I would post and let you know.

The arm is okay. It still hurts, but I can tell it is improving. I have been wearing a sling 99% of the time - morning, day, night...yes, even when sleeping. The doctor told me the more immobilized I kept my arm the first 5 days, the better off I would be. After 5 days, I could start taking off the slings for small amounts of time. Last night, was the first night I actually slept without the sling and it was alright...not great, but alright. Over the past five days, I have grown quite used to sleeping on my back and not rolling around, but it still happens a little. I have gained a little motion in my arm already. I still cannot turn my arm left or right, but I can extend it slightly now. On Tuesday, I could not extend it all, so that is progress, right?

I also stopped taking the pain medication yesterday and switched to Advil. The pain medication never really agreed with me. The first pills caused dizziness, hot flashes and nausea. The second pills prescribed made my throat sore and made me mildly itchy all over. Plus, the pain relief although effective wore off quickly. The Advil does not eliminate the pain as much and leaves a mild throb, but seems to last longer. As a result, I seem to have less up and down with the pain. I will see how the next few days go.

A huge thanks to Dale, who has been an angel supporting me with this injury. He has done so much to make me comfortable and allow me to rest my arm. He is a blessing.

So that is the update. One week down and seven more to go toward a full recovery.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Dale cheered me up by...

...making my Mom's recipe for Macaroni & Three Cheeses with Stewed Tomatoes. It was a nice treat since yesterday was the 8 year anniversary of my Mom' passing. The anniversary of her death is always tough, but of course Dale helps to make things better.

Not the way I wanted to start 2011

As some of you may have heard through the grapevine, I fractured my arm Monday evening. I would like to say I have some amazingly cool tale of heroics, but it is really just a tale of being at the wrong place, at the wrong time. In all truthfulness, it was really five seconds where I went from feeling proud to feeling like an idiot.

Monday evening I got home from work around 5:15 PM. It was the Monday after a holiday weekend, so we all know that those Mondays are never the best. That Monday proved to be ultimately worse than other Mondays after a holiday. After dinner, I decided even though it was 30 degrees out, I would stick to my 2011 resolution to get back on the fitness bandwagon and try to at least get in a 30 minute walk. I headed out in the cold with my dog, Zoe and my iPod as company. We headed west through my neighborhood toward Haskin Park. It was a good walk until about 20 minutes into the walk when we headed back east to Beeman Park, which recently opened in our neighborhood.

Halfway through Beeman Park as I was walking, I suddenly found myself face first on the ground. I caught my leg on something and tripped so quickly, I wasn't even able to get my arms out in front of me. I crashed hard against the pavement, smashing my right knee, left arm, nose and left cheek. The ironic part was at the time I fell, I honestly was mentally commending myself for getting out and walking, even though it was cold and icy. My pride quickly moved to shock and then embarrassment. Thankfully, Zoe was quick enough to get out of my way, so she was not hurt.

The cause of my fall was an 18 inch PVC pipe sticking right up through the sidewalk. Since it was the same color as the sidewalk, it was near impossible to see in the evening, even with a bright moon and mostly clear skies. Dale went the next day and snapped a few photos of the pipe.








As you can see, even in the daylight it is tough to notice the pipe. At night, it was a disaster waiting to happen...and the disaster was named Tom.

After the fall, I headed straight home. I was most worried about my face, as I could tell there was a bit of road rash, but I think the cold temperatures against my face made it feel worse. I got home and my face and nose only had a few scrapes. My right knee was scraped pretty bad and my left arm was throbbing. I felt like my pride was hurt the most. As Dale tended to my wounds, it became obvious my arm pain was not subsiding. Actually it only got worse and worse as the evening progressed. We debated on going to Urgent Care but I hate going to Urgent Care or Emergency Rooms, especially at night. We both knew that if it was broken or fractured, Urgent Care would at best take x-rays and wrap my arm with a referral to an orthopedic surgeon. I decided to skip the middleman, ice it, live with the pain for the night and find an orthopedic center to go to in the morning. The night sucked. I got very little sleep, but made it to Tuesday morning.

Tuesday at 8:00 AM, Dale started calling local orthopedic centers. Apparently, broken bones are great business in Colorado, as every place close to me was booked for days (and some weeks). We ended up getting an appointment near lunch 45 minutes away North in Longmont, CO, thanks to a referral from our friend, Shannon Spencer. The x-rays showed the radius bone in my arm was fractured in two places at my elbow. It is fractured at the point that allows me to turn my arm/wrist to the left or right and extend my arm fully. My doctor had good and bad news. The good - I would most likely not need surgery (yeah!). The bad - this is one of the slowest healing fractures and would take 8-10 weeks to heal (boo!). I am in a sling to immobilize my arm. I will be in the sling for at least 2-3 weeks, so the fractures do not turn into breaks (a possibility). Eventually, I can start reducing the time each day in the sling as I regain motion in my arm. I am happy that I will probably be able to avoid surgery, but know the next two months will not be fun. Plus, I feel like a total idiot for tripping and fracturing my arm.

The fun did not end once diagnosed though. I ended up having an allergic reaction to the pain killers prescribed Tuesday, which included severe hot flashes, dizziness and nausea. I know understand menopause. It resulted in another sleepless night for me. Thank goodness for Dale, who made me as comfortable as possible, even fetching cold clothes for my forehead throughout the night. I am now on a different pain killer, which seems to do less for the pain, but at least I do not feel like I am 120 degrees with the room spinning.

Dale contacted the Parks and Recreation Department for City of Arvada, who manages the park, as well as the construction company, who just finished the park to let them know what happened and to see if they could fix the pipes before someone else was injured. Since the park is adjacent to an elementary school, we were fearful since school re-started today, more traffic may lead to another accident. The manager from Parks & Recreation and the owner of the construction company were very apologetic. The owner of the construction company agreed the pipes being left without cones or even safety tape was no smart. He said the pipes really should not have been left at all. We think the pipes are where they will be installing a pavilion this Spring and contained wires for electricity. We were pleased that by 5:00 PM on Tuesday, the pipes were removed. Thankfully nobody else will end up like me. Dale snapped a photo of the pipe removed.




So there you have it, that is my story - man tries to lose weight, walks dog, trips on pipe and fractures arm. I personally think I need a more exciting story, like I saw an old woman being mugged and my heroics to save her resulted in a fractured arm for me, but three thugs now behind bars. At the very least, I guess I could tell people that Dale beats me and pushed me down the stairs in a drunken rage. It is not true, but a lot more interesting than I tripped while walking my dog.

Thanks to everyone who sent Facebook messages with support. I appreciate the kindness.

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Good start to the new year

Dale and I kicked off the New Year in a similar fashion to previous years - home alone. Like past years we stayed in our pajamas all day, we watched television, watched DVDs, surfed the net, took down the Christmas tree, made a nice dinner and just plain relaxed. It was a nice quiet day and I feel the perfect start to another year. Happy New Years everyone!



New Year's Eve Recap

Please hum Billy Joel's We Didn't Start The Fire as you read this.

1:30 PM - Leave home - freezing cold - Dale - Toby and Nicole - mini van - Flatirons mall - AMC movie theater - King's Speech - King George VI - stammer - great flick - 4:30 PM freezing cold - Bloom restaurant - mojito - Kelly and Scott - crab chowder - great conversation - old friends - new friends - mojito - lobster pasta - chocolate cake - hot chocolate - great meal - 6:45 PM - freezing cold - mini van - slick roads - Safeway - DVD return - ATM - 7:15 PM - back home - back out - 8:00 PM - freezing cold - Jack's Bar - Kelly and Scott - Robert and Barb - Stella beer - Paul and Stacey - Stella beer - Brenda and Jason - 10:00 PM - ball drop in NY - Scott - Toby - Mark - Chad - Stella beer - 12:00 AM - new year - great conversations - laughs - 1:00 AM - freezing cold - home - 1:30 AM - bed.

The Real Winnie the Poo

I think this version would be more fun.





I'm going to hell for reposting this

But it made me laugh. I know it shouldn't.





The movie King's Speech and me

Yesterday, Dale and I joined our friends Toby and Nicole Krout for our annual New Year's Eve movie date. This year we saw King's Speech starring Colin Firth and Geoffrey Rush. Simply put, this movie is brilliant and an excellent display of good, solid acting.

The movie focuses on story of King George VI's struggle with a speech impediment as he takes the throne of England in a world where radio is the new communication medium and his country is facing an impending war against Hitler. His father dies, his brother David gives up the throne and suddenly a shy Prince with a horrible stammer is faced with leading a country. His father says it well before his passing that a King used to have to just look good in front of a crowd, but with radio broadcasts, he is now expected to be an actor. At the time, King George VI (Queen Elizabeth's father) took the throne 1/3 of the world's population was under British rule, so being King of England was really not just leading a country, but the world. Colin Firth portrays a frustrated, embarrassed King George VI and Geoffrey Rush portrays his quirky, unorthodox speech therapist. Both men delivered Oscar worthy performances.





For me, the movie had lots of personal meaning as they touch upon how King George VI's stammer and speech issues are partially related to his parents forcing him to be right-handed when naturally born left-handed. My parents did this same thing to me. More likely than not, this also resulted in my own speech impediment as a child. I struggled pronouncing words that had double constants, like school. Basically, I could not enunciate the "ch" and "school" sounded more like "shool". For my most part, nobody outside my immediate family could understand me when I spoke. I had to go to speech class from 1st grade to 5th grade. It was horribly embarrassing as I felt stupid and different than the other kids. I never felt comfortable talking and sadly, not only did the other kids tease me, but my 2nd grade teacher once teased me in front of the entire class. This cruelty made me withdrawal further and become incredibly shy and untrusting. To make matters even worse, my speech class was usually during recess most days, so rather than going to recess like the other kids, I was excluded from socializing. Again, it just made me further feel like I was not normal.

Seeing King George VI's pain, anguish and embarrassment portrayed in the film with such realism brought back a lot of memories and emotions, but it was also reassuring in many ways to see first-hand someone else face similar experiences and feelings as I did. It was especially interesting to see an adult and future King face these struggles. He felt unable to lead a people and country, you can tell he loved, when he felt stupid and an embarrassment. This movie is very inspiring to anyone about overcoming adversity, but even more so to anyone who has struggled or is struggling with speech impediments. It is definitely worth seeing and Dale, Toby and Nicole loved the movie too. It is also fascinating period piece and a part of history I imagine most people, especially Americans, are unaware.

Two thumbs up. If you get the chance, check it out. And if you are wondering, yes speech class did help me, I can now say school. However, I did quit speech class on my own in 5th grade because of a monarch butterfly, but that is a whole other story.

Dale made me a special New Year's Day breakfast

Egg fetuses and slaughtered pig...yum, my favorite!